Reflections on Family, Growth, and Resilience
A recent family discussion took me down memory lane, reflecting on the journey that has shaped me. From my younger years to now, I can confidently say I’ve grown and matured. Looking back, I remember being confused about the rules and lessons my family instilled in me. My grandmother, mother, aunts, and uncle were always insistent: wash your own underwear, make your bed as soon as you wake up, and keep the house clean. Back then, I thought they were just being strict or demanding.
But as I grew older and moved abroad, I realized the value of these lessons. Living alone in company-provided housing, I took pride in maintaining a clean, organized space. It felt validating when my landlord praised my efforts and even called out other tenants who weren’t as diligent, ensuring their mess wouldn’t affect my living area. Later, when I shared a space with friends, my habits inspired them to keep their belongings tidy. Those childhood lessons, once a source of frustration, became the foundation for my self-discipline and independence.
Now, I’m genuinely thankful for my family’s guidance. It wasn’t about controlling me; it was about preparing me for life.
Growing up, I was confident and outgoing. I loved dancing, often leading performances from kindergarten through college. Later, I enjoyed creating TikToks and even ventured into vlogging on YouTube. But in recent years, I’ve found comfort in solitude. Give me a good book or some work on my laptop, and I’m content. I no longer seek the limelight. I’m happy working behind the scenes, letting others shine while I focus on my tasks.
Life has taught me many lessons through heartbreaks and betrayals—some caused by others, and perhaps some by me. One thing I’ve learned is not to blame others for my misfortunes. Ultimately, the choices and decisions I make are my responsibility. While other people may influence situations, I know I am accountable for where I end up.
There’s a saying about how one small mishap can set off a chain reaction: waking up late, misplacing your shoes, missing your ride, and eventually ruining your entire day. Life can feel like that sometimes. But I’ve also come to believe in karma and the importance of kindness. Everyone is fighting battles we know nothing about, and being kind is the least we can do.
If I have one regret, it’s the times I’ve hurt or upset my family. They’ve always been my constant, accepting me at my best and worst. That’s why I strive to make it up to them now, showing my gratitude and love in every way I can.
Growing up, I naively believed that being good to others guaranteed they’d be good to me in return. Life proved me wrong. Some people only treat you well when they can benefit from you, but their true colors show when you’re no longer useful to them. I’ve learned not to tolerate disrespect. Once someone crosses that line, I distance myself and change how I interact with them.
Life’s challenges have taught me to be resilient. I’ve faced problems that felt insurmountable, but by confronting them head-on, I grew stronger. Mistakes are inevitable, but they’re also opportunities to learn and do better. As the saying goes, “When one door closes, another opens.”
In tough times, you may discover that people you thought you could rely on might turn their backs on you. But family is different—they’re often the ones who stay, even when things get tough.
This journey has taught me to value my family and the lessons they’ve passed down. Life is about learning from our mistakes, taking responsibility for our choices, and striving to become better versions of ourselves. No matter how difficult things get, resilience, kindness, and a willingness to learn can carry us through.
Life’s challenges may test us, but they also teach us to value family, take accountability, and become better versions of ourselves.
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Karen Kheaye 
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