Why Waiting Was the Greatest Love Decision of My Life
Valentine’s Day often celebrates young love, the early weddings, the baby announcements, the fairytale timelines.
But what about the women who waited?
I married in my 40s. In some cultures, that makes me a “late bride.” In others, I would be labeled “dalagang-ulay (matandang dalaga)” or “leftover.”
But here’s my truth: I am not late. I am right on time.
There was a season when I questioned myself. Society quietly whispers that a woman has an expiration date, especially when it comes to marriage and motherhood. The old mindset said: marry young, have children early, follow the expected path.
But times have changed. Women today build careers, businesses, education, and self-worth before walking down the aisle. Marriage is no longer a race, it is a choice.
And I chose to wait.
If I had rushed, I might not have the life I have now. I might not have this man; my husband, my answered prayer. A hardworking, kind-hearted man who loves me deeply. He makes me feel like a Queen. He cares for the people I love, especially my parents. He honors my journey and respects my dreams.
I prayed for him. I told God, “If he is the one, make things happen.” And God did.
Some may say I married too late to safely bear a child. And medically, that may be true. At my age, pregnancy carries risks I am not willing to take lightly. I do not want a child to suffer because of my timeline. But if God still grants me that blessing, I will receive it with gratitude. Babies are angels. They are gifts.
Yet here is what I firmly believe:
A woman is not defined by her womb. All women may have the ability to give birth. But not all are meant to be mothers in the same way.
Motherhood is more than biology, it is nurturing, loving, guiding, and protecting. And that can exist in many forms.
I am happy I waited. I do not regret a single year.
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“I was never late. I was being prepared for a love that matched my worth.” – Karen Kheaye
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